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In Loving Memory
Derk Thibodeau
2/6/1955 - 2/11/2010





 


Derk Thibodeau , 55, died quietly  at his home in Franklin, Maine on February 11, 2010 after  a  gallant and  courageous  battle with glioblastoma, a  brain cancer.  He died peacefully in the place he loved most, his home on the hilltop amidst the blueberry fields and shimmering pines. 


Derk was born on February 6,1955 in Fort Kent, Maine.  He was the firstborn son of Ted and Marilyn Thibodeau.  He graduated from Fort Kent Community High School, class of 1973 and  attended Husson College.  On April 18, 1993 he married the love of his life, Cheryl Moody.  Together they raised 2 beautiful sons, Adam and Nick.


Derk was an expert craftsman.  For over 20 years, he was a builder and finish carpenter throughout Hancock County.  Not only was his work very important to him, it was important to him that he did it right. He was industrious, enjoyed being outdoors and loved working with wood.  His workshop was his haven.   In the final weeks of his life, as he gazed into the back fields of blowing snow looking at his workshop with silent anticipation, with patience and with calm, he longed for the day he believed he would return to the work he loved so much.


 Derk was a proud and honest man. He lived his life in the same manner that he died, with dignity, grace, and quietude.  He was a man of few words, yet he touched his family forever with his actions and his exemplary life of integrity. This legacy will forever resonate and enrich their lives.   Although he has left his family and those that he has touched forever, his life of fine example will forever continue to be their guide.  He has set the bar for his sons, Nick and Adam. Behind him are life’s measured steps,  which will serve as a model and as a guide for those that loved him most. 


 In addition to his parents, he is survived by his wife of 17 years, Cheryl Moody Thibodeau.  He leaves behind 2 sons, Adam Sayre of Orrington, Maine; Nicholas Sayre of Surry, Maine; a step son, Allan Thibodeau of Elliot Maine.  He also leaves behind 3 loving sisters; Carla Harris and her husband Ron of Turner, Maine; Elaine Thibodeau of Frenchville , Maine whose  kinship and support as a loving brother have helped sustain her through difficult and trying times; Deanna Mote and her husband Tom of Indianapolis, Indiana; adoring niece Halle Mote and nephew Jackson Mote, who had nothing but love and admiration for his uncle.  


Also surviving are in-law parents, Pauline and Nick Moody of Southwest Harbor, Maine; sister and brother in law, Lynne and Colin Mackenzie, nieces Morgan and Bailey MacKenzie of Ellsworth, Maine, all of whom loved him like he was one of their own.


The family would like to thank dear friends and those in the community who provided emotional support and love throughout this journey. Additionally, a word of thanks to Hancock County Homecare & Hospice  volunteers, who have given of themselves in working tirelessly to provide comfort.


In keeping with Derk and Cheryl’s wishes, a funeral service will be held on February 18, 2010 at 10 a.m  at Manset Union Church in Southwest Harbor, Maine, officiated by Reverend Charles Ives. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to Hancock County Homecare & Hospice, P.O. Box 156, Blue Hill, Maine 04614. Online condolences can be made at www.directcremationof maine.com



Online Condolences
From: Debbie Geaghan   Hancock Maine
Relationship:  Friend of Cheryl Moody-Thibodeau

Dear Cheryl, My deepest sympathy goes out to you in the loss of your beloved husband, Derk. Your husband fought the good fight wih dignity and grace. He will always be with you in your heart. May you be comforted by all the wonderful memories that you have of him throughout the years. Derk will be your guardian angel until you and he meet again. You are and have been since Derk's illness in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself and know that I am only a phone call away. Debbie
Sent:  2/13/2010
From: Molly Webster   Ellsworth
Relationship:  friend

to all of Derk's family and friends... Derk's obituary is the nicest I have ever read. It sums up the remarkable qualities of this very special person. I knew him for only six months, but he and I became tight buddies. Cheryl, Nick and Adam, you were all lucky to have Derk in your lives, but he was just as lucky to have you in his. I will miss Derk and I will never forget him. I also treasure the experience of getting to know all of you. Love, Molly
Sent:  2/13/2010
From: Emily & Leroy Muise   Trenton Maine
Relationship:  friends

Dear Cheryl, We were so saddened to hear about Derk. You have been so strong this past year. You are an amazing person. It was a beautiful obituary. Please know that we are thinking of you and your family. The offer still stands about the car.
Sent:  2/13/2010
From: Jim & Sarah Rausch   Ellsworth Maine
Relationship:  Customer

Dear Cheryl, Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family in the loss of Derk. You all have been in our thoughts and prayers since we heard of his illness last summer. We have thought of Derk frequently in the past twelve years as we have enjoyed the beautiful home that he built for us. He was a true craftsman. Anxious as we were to move in, we had to learn to be patient because he wanted everything to be perfect! We will continue to proudly tell everyone that Derk Thibodeau built our home. Sincerely, Jim & Sarah
Sent:  2/15/2010
From: Merlene McIntire   Seal Cove ME
Relationship:  Friend

Cheryl, Please know that you have my deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband. I know that there is little I can say to console you but please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Sent:  2/15/2010
From: Tom Walsh   Gouldsboro Maine
Relationship:  Friend

Cheryl, I was saddened to hear today of the news of Derk's passing. You must be taking some comfort in the reality that the pain he endured for so long is over. Your pain, and that of the boys, will take some time to subside, a measure of what he meant and still means to you all. Hugs from afar. As we say in Ireland, I'm very sorry for your troubles. -- Tom Walsh
Sent:  2/15/2010
From: Guy and Paula Dunbar   Southwest Harbor Maine
Relationship:  Uncle and Aunt

Dear Cheryl, We think of you daily and this trial you are going through. We hope you can get strength from the wonderful memories and from the fact that Derk would want you to be happy. He was a special person. Take care of yourself, Cheryl. You are always in our thoughts and prayers but more than ever, now. We love you. Uncle Guy and Aunt Paula
Sent:  2/16/2010
From: Louise Lopez   Bar Harbor Maine
Relationship:  Friend

Message: Cheryl, I am happy that you and Derk found each other and sad that your time together was not longer. You will see him in the stars and hear him in your heart. God Bless you and all Derk's family, Louise Lopez
Sent:  2/16/2010
From: R.W. Estela   Orono Maine
Relationship:  friend

My deepest condolences, Cheryl, to you and your sons, on the recent passing of Derk. I had not spoken with him in several years and therefore was unaware of the difficulties he was having. Derk and I first met in the fall of 1984 when my girlfriend and I moved in across the street from where he was living in Mariaville. He didn't have a well yet at his house, but we did, so visit by visit, jug by jug, we soon became well acquainted with one another. I was a general contractor at the time, and over the next few years Derk would do occasional sub-contracting work for me along the Airline in Amherst, Aurora, and Osborne and Down East in Jonesport during his days off from Eastern Fine Paper Company. By 1987 he was working a couple of days a week with me in Orono on a lengthy project, learning the ins and outs of heat-sink foundations, radiant floor slabs, and timber framing. One day he told me he was thinking about quitting the paper mill in Brewer and asked me whether I would want to have him as a full-time sub-contractor; during the next months I introduced him to standing-seam copper roofs, tongue-and-groove flooring, hardwood balustrades, and a host of other finish carpentry skills. He was making quite the transition from paper mill worker to wood craftsman. By the middle of 1988 major cost overruns on a big project for the University of Maine precluded my being able to keep any subs further on the job, but fortunately at that point Derk had an addition of his own to work on. I remember visiting Derk in the summer of 1989 when he had just moved into the house in Franklin. He showed me around and told me of plans he was making for the place. We kept in touch into the '90s for a while, but then became increasingly involved in our own separate activities. I spoke to him last in 2002; we promised to meet for lunch sometime in Bar Harbor, as both of us were doing jobs in the area, but our lives didn't seem to slow down enough . . . . We should all be so lucky to have known someone like Derk Thibodeau. Best regards, R.W. Estela
Sent:  2/16/2010
From: Marcine Boucher Akeley   Yarmouth Me
Relationship:  Childhood neighbor

To Ted, Marilyn, Carla and the rest of Derk's family, My heart goes out to you at this time. You are never ready for the loss of a child or sibling. I was sadden to hear of Derk's death. To Cheryl and family, my prayers go out to all of you and you need to take in comfort that he is at peace now and you will all be together in the end. He will be your guiding light, your co-pilot, your strength. He will be the light in your eyes and the laughter in your voice. He will never be far from mind, heart and soul. In Prayer...Marcine Boucher Akeley
Sent:  2/16/2010
From: Kathleen Schaefer   Hancock Maine
Relationship:  Friend

Dear Cheryl: My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family during this extraordinarily difficult time. You have been and continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. Kathleen
Sent:  2/17/2010
From: Susan Pooler,(Blanchette)   Vero Beach Fl.
Relationship:  Friend

Dear Ted, Marilyn,Carla,& Denna,and all of his family, We were so saddened to hear about Derk. Such a shock!! I know you have lost such a big part of the family, but he will always be with you in spirit. May God give you the strength you will need at this time. We will keep you in our prayers and our thoughts.
Sent:  2/17/2010
From: Deb & Bruce Staples   Trenton Me
Relationship:  Friend

Dear Cheryl & family, Our hearts go out to you during this sad time, Derk was a wonderfully talented man, I enjoyed seeing him in NEH while he was working at Westerlee. Keep him in your heart and may he live on there forever. Thinking of you. Love, Deb & Bruce
Sent:  2/17/2010
From: David Lacey   Franklin Maine
Relationship:  friend

Derk Thibodeau was a right man, self disciplined and true to his people, correct in his craft and a gentleman. I have enjoyed being his friend and will for all time treasure our time together.
Sent:  2/18/2010
From: MacQuinn   Bar Harbor
Relationship:  friends of family

To everyone in Derk's family we are saddened to hear of your loss. We have been praying for you and Derk, which will continue to do so. May your memories be happy. Hold on to your family and friends to help you through this terrible time. We offer our deepest sympathy. Love Lacey & Paul
Sent:  2/22/2010
From: Lisa Nickel   Ellsworth
Relationship:  aquaintance

To Derk's family, I knew Derk from coming into his Dr's office. When I'd call him for anything, he was always so nice and I would swear I could hear a smile. I am sorry for your loss. He will be missed.
Sent:  3/3/2010

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